Here we are at the halfway mark in the year.
I don’t know about you, but for me I always feel like I am standing with one foot on one side of the year and one foot on the other side.
I am in the middle, looking at both halves, I can find touches of things that I may like better on one side versus the other, but they are both important parts, with equal importance in the balance of our lives.
We need the light time of the year and we need the dark time.
We need daytime and we need the nighttime.
We need times of being out in the world and we need times of being internal allowing ourselves to heal and rest.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of the word – Balance- to balance two halves of we too can become whole.
This makes me think of something new I am learning these days it is called Voice Dialogue.
Voice Dialogue is a form of coaching that helps bring balance into your life, this is achieved through learning how to isolate the voices that represent different parts of yourself… and then listen to what they have to say.
When you listen to the different perspectives, with an objective ear you melt into a state of neutrality, you find yourself standing in the middle and from this place you can make clear and conscious choices about which story you will listen to.
When you take time to listen to all the different points of view you learn that for the most part all the sides are trying to do what is best from their perspective.
As you listen to the different perspectives it dissipates the barriers between the two viewpoints.
You don’t have to like the stories in your head or the options that are placed before you, but when you have a choice you are empowered to live a life that is best for you. It takes you out of the victim role.
You cannot get rid of the different part of yourself. There will always be opposing voices in your head, but which one will you listen to?
Let me give you an example, I have a part of me who likes to sit on the couch and a part of me who likes to go to the gym, maybe this is familiar to you too.
When I think about these two parts in my head, I can see how they are both trying to take care of me. The part that wants to sit on the couch wants me to relax and rest, while the part of me who wants to go to the gym wants me to feel healthy and take care of my body.
Which part do I listen to?
That totally depends on the day. If I have been working longer hours and I’m not sleeping well then maybe sitting on the couch and resting is the better option. But if I am just stuck in the inertia of inactivity then going to the gym would be a much better choice.
There is never a moment when you are not in a place of choice. It is just a matter of which voice will you listen to.
As we stand at the Solstice and we look at the time ahead of us, how will you choose to move forward? Do you stand here and look at all the blessings in your life? Or do you focus on all the things that have gone wrong?
It is a practice to stand in the middle and bring awareness in your life.
Which voice do you listen to right now? It is always changing, and you always have a choice.
This puts you in a place of empowerment.
I celebrate the choice I have.
I learned years ago that I might not like the darker times, I might not like the darker emotions, but I have a choice as to how I will react to it.
This is a place of balance for me and it feels more peaceful in my body when I am here.
Here are some ways to reframe your conversation around the choices:
What if I made choices in my life that bring my joy?
What if I was empowered by my choices?
Every day I choose to empower myself with my choices.
What would it feel like in my body if I felt empowered by my choices?